As we go through this book discussion I am just going to record my thoughts on certain questions and things within the book. Sometimes I may go off on my own topic that is related to the chapter. If you have a specific question about the chapter post it in the comments and I will happily respond (you can check a box in the comment section and all comments will be sent to your e-mail box!). I have also decided to show actual pictures of my house, instead of other folks homes, so it may get scary! Also, as we approach chapter 6 I may offer a couple of at my house “BASIC COOKING” instruction dates, for folks like me that are lost or nearly lost in the kitchen. There will also be periodic calls for recipes so keep your eyes peeled! Finally, I’ve asked Cyndy Salzmann to comment if she can, so hopefully we will benefit from the authors own insights.
Comments on page 7 “Chaos”…”Each day I waded through piles of laundry, stacks of papers, inches of dust and a mountain of frustration. We ate at fast-food places so often my children complained they were getting duplicates of the toys in the kids meals. My husband no longer looked in his drawer for underwear-he went straight to the dryer and let out a war whoop of delight if he found a clean pair.”
For me this was the hardest transition to recognize that this is my job and not Wayne’s. That he can help me if he chooses to but if he doesn’t want to he doesn’t have to. I never go to his job and help him work (thus he is still employed!) and meet his deadlines! As we just read the Bible clearly says I am suppose to help him not the other way around. So it was difficult for me to realize that I was his helper, he was not mine. Also that I was serving the Lord by helping him and making sure he had clean socks, underwear , ironed shirts, pants, food etc..
Also as we’ve added children things have become more challenging and I can see why the Proverbs 31 women gets up before sunrise. You have to get time in with the Lord to start your house off on the right foot. I am still trying to get up early enough to get Wayne’s breakfast made, right now I make extras and save/freeze them for him. He heats it in the morning and he goes off on his merry way…feed!
Homeschooling and housekeeping do not go together well because they both take up a lot of time. I often have to make sure I focus completely on what I am doing until I am done. So I school from 9-12 and homemake after school is done.
I have the children do purposeful chores which is both a challenge and a joy. My kids clean windows, baseboards, bathrooms (excluding toilets & tubs), load dishes, fold some laundry, sort all laundry, put some laundry away…. So it is a joy that they do many things for me that I no longer have to do. But the training of the children does take some time. I am unable to do any of my chores while the two younger ones are doing their chores. I have to stay on top of them. Yes, Pearson (2 1/2 ) has chores!
Thoughts on question 8: Dictionary.com says the following about haven:
1.a harbor or port.
2.any place of shelter and safety; refuge; asylum. –verb (used with object)
3.to shelter, as in a haven.
I think my home is more of a haven now then it has ever been but it could definitely use fine tuning. I decorate in a way that is kid friendly, welcoming and easy to keep up. You’ll notice my couch is not facing the window, we simply can fit more people into the house the way the furniture is arranged.We have 30 folks (adults & kids) that attend our HOPE group on Wednesdays, 3 neighbor kids, Maass‘ on Sunday etc… Accordingly our house is decorated to entertain. All three girls share one room so we can keep a room open for guests. We have concrete floors so folks can spill anything and I can smile all the way to the Biff (aka Swiffer). As I am writing this I am realizing I do not decorate for me I decorate with the others in mind. Don’t get me wrong I’m a chicken freak and you’ll see them all over my house but I really do think of the Lord & others before myself.
Since I have always done well with some structure I usually work off of lists and schedules. Accordingly, I love Flylady which provides me with my daily marching orders. I also use Microsoft outlooks calendar, tasks & e-mail. My final weapon is a miniature spiral I keep in my purse that I jot down my to do list & errands. These tools enable me to professionally manage my house and things seem to get done in a more orderly fashion.
So, when you come to my house you will (hopefully for your sake) not say forget the plates I’m gonna eat right off these floors! But hopefully, you won’t be distracted by clutter, lots of work undone, feet sticking to floors and too many mounds of laundry. But what I hope you say is I feel right at home, and that you are able to kick up your feet, and your able to have your crawler on the floor and most of all I hope you feel loved here. The main thing I have come to realize is that I serve God through serving my family and you.
Thoughts on question 10: Mondays are really hard days for me because on Sunday I really try hard to rest and not fuss. So on Monday the house is totaled. I am working with my family to help keep the house up a little better on Sundays but as of today Monday morning rolls around and I am unable to concentrate on school until I get this place under control. I am going to have to start getting up earlier so I can neaten before school. Laundry has always been my arch nemesis. Currently, my challenge is learning to manage my new house. Especially, the laundry room which is trying to become a catch all. I am on a laundry schedule that works pretty well for me now but still I find it to be difficult to keep up at times. Additionally, right now I do not have enough hangers to hang up all of our clothes, since I threw some away in the move. That does not help my laundry situation!
Please share….Is homemaking what you thought it would be or is it different if so how? What challenges are you facing in your home? Take a minute to visualize your home as a haven. What do you see? Share this vision with the blog!